This is a weekly advice column written by my mother, Fariba. If you have any questions or would love an opinion on something, please feel free to ask in the comments below.
What is unconditional love? I came across this quote a few days ago by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, an American psychologist, that said, “The only thing that truly heals people is unconditional love.”
I thought this would be a good subject to touch upon for this week’s column.
I believe one of the hardest things one can do is to love unconditionally, and yet, at the same time one of the easiest and perhaps most natural things one can do is to love unconditionally.
In our relationships with family members, friends, and colleagues, we all tend to have expectations, expectations that we want met. And as long as those expectations are met, we are happy and loving.
But what if those expectations aren’t met? Are we able to still love them?
I believe that’s where we recognize unconditional love. It’s in that moment that you realize those who didn’t meet your expectations are still just as near and dear to you.
We often see this kind of love between a parent and a child, but it’s harder to see sometimes in our other relationships. There are typically strings attached to our love and the other side of those strings are expectations.
I wish we could cut those strings and really love each other, regardless of our flaws or our failure to live up to a certain criteria.
That said, I also believe in striving to be the best version of ourselves that we can be without being asked to do so. If we do a good deed for the first person we come across, each morning, we’d probably not only make their day, but our own as well.
The gesture can be as simple as a smile and wishing them a good day, buying them a cup of coffee, helping them carry a heavy load, or holding the door for them.
If we all did those good deeds, can you imagine what kind of world we would have today? Let’s love with no conditions and no strings attached!